04/25/2018










Ways to Help Beat the Loneliness of Your Aging Parents

More than likely you have plans for what you are going to do tonight, tomorrow, the weekend, and even maybe a vacation a few months off. Do your parents? As your parents aged, they may have drawn away from social groups and friends they once had. They will spend their days watching TV or reading instead of going out. Loneliness sets in and it falls on you to help your parents beat the blues. Helping get your parents out and socializing again is not the monumental task you might think it will be. Follow these simple ways to help them get out and enjoy life.

Find local groups, senior centers, and support programs in your area.

You do not have to tackle the enormous task of entertaining your parents by yourself. It is important to remember that there are several organizations and programs already set up to assist you. Contacting your local chapters will give you something solid to suggest to your parents. These centers and care facilities might seem to your parents to be a push to place them in a home. Remind them that you still love them, and then show them the benefits and enjoyment they can have by being with others of their own age and interests.

Encourage your parents to pick up a hobby.

Hobbies are great ways for the young and old to get out and meet new friends. Begin by suggesting simple hobbies they may already like doing. Purchasing and setting up quality materials for your parents is a good way to encourage them, without pressing them too hard. If your mother likes to garden, purchase a large garden bed and a few vegetable plants. If your father likes to paint, buy a quality easel and paint set. When they want out of the house, look for classes offered at your local community college to encourage them to learn new skills and trades.

Continue to encourage your parents to follow their dreams.

Your parent’s dreams did not end when they got older. It is never too late for them to start dreaming again. Begin the conversation by asking them what they wanted to do when they were your age. Encourage them to think beyond what they did for a living. Some great ideas are to have them start a small business, obtain a degree, learn to speak a new language, write books, or start working again. If your father laments that he never got to spend time with you and your siblings, see if the local library has a time where volunteers can read to children. Your mother may have regretted never following her writing passion, so encourage her to write short stories and have them printed locally.

Loneliness is often seen as something that just happens as one gets older. This is not true; loneliness is a large concern and can be a sign of other problems. Ignoring the problem will only make the situation worse. Be sure to ask your parents what their plans are for the weekend, the next week, etc. If your parents do not make plans or have any activities they can attend, take the time to talk to them about getting out in the community and finding new friends and activities.

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The Law Office of Andrew M. Lamkin, P.C. can help you with non-legal issues such as nursing home placement, retirement planning, and long term care insurance. Call Andrew Lamkin today at (516) 605-0625 for a free consultation and get help navigating your elderly parents through this difficult time.



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